Want to know how to teach your one year old baby to behave? Follow our tips to maintain the discipline for your baby.
You may think that teaching how to behave to one year old baby sounds harsh. Discipline is often considered similar to punishment, but it is not. Punishment is a penalty for bad behavior, and discipline is all about teaching what’s right and wrong. When I think of discipline I think of those times and practice we all need to give to teach our child about the world and the consequences of actions and slowly learn to control.
During this year of life, children become a little explorer and want to play with everything they see. So, discipline is a must to keep them out of danger. Discipline is all about helping a toddler to behave. It only happens if you have a warm loving relationship with your baby. Babies always need your attention warm and loving care to feel safe. For one year old babies discipline is needed to set limits, consequences, and encouraging good behavior.
Create a Distraction
If you fight with him when he acts up, your tone will make him upset or curious. So you should calmly and quickly get your toddler interested in other activities. Distracting your child helps to stop your child’s inappropriate behavior and manners. Distraction is a strategy from parents that allows toddlers to calm potentially harmful behavior and offer a different suggestion.
For example, if your toddler is jumping on the sofa arm, then you may say, “No, you cannot jump like that, but you can jump outside in the yard or on the floor.” Or, you can gently move from the sofa and give him toys to play together. It teaches your toddler to understand that it’s unwanted behavior.
Turn Negative Ways into Positive Lessons
Your one-year-old toddler is naturally curious about exploring things and trying to do everything they see. When you see him doing that wrong, you say “no,” and this constant “no” seems to hold meaning. It makes him feel like you are not letting him doing anything. So, when you say “no,” it makes him think like it’s a normal thing, and he will start to ignore it.
There are times when the “no” word is appropriate like when your toddler is going to anything dangerous such as going to run over the street or reaching for a hot stove. So do not say frequent “no,” instead explain to him how to do things better. Explain that your toddler should share toys with his brother or friends rather than saying “no” when he takes away the ball from his playmate.
Explain the Rules in Basic Way
Your one year old toddler may not understand all the rules entirely or follow all of them. But you should explain the main facts about why that thing should not be done. Repeat the explanation to them frequently when you see them trying to do that.
For example, “You are not allowed to come kitchen as there are dangerous flames from stoves.” or “We do not throw or spread toy as mommy or daddy will get hurt” or “We should cover our mouth with our elbow when we cough as we do not want to share those tiny germs to others.” Some rules like,
- Give greetings to people when you talk to them.
- Speak nicely to each other.
- We share and help everyone who needs it.
- We look after our stuff.
Be a good role model and expect your whole family members to be like that as you want to show those positive behaviors. Your toddler will learn from things they see in their everyday life.
Much of your discipline and behavior towards your toddler depends on the ability to set limits. Humans need limits, and younger children should have the necessary limits. Boundaries give security to those toddlers who want to explore, but their inexperience can lead them to danger. Limits setting teaches lessons for life that the world is full of yes and no. You will decide what behavior is unacceptable, and you will stick with that. That will vary at each member and each stage of development. Your child must need to experience limits before he goes to the outside world.
- You want your toddler not to throw trash around the house and keep them on the lid.
- Teach toddlers to keep the door closed when he comes from outside.
- You teach him to give greetings to the guests. You stop pulling your pet’s fur and teach your toddler to pat him nicely.
- Scissors, fire, and medicines are harmful so put limits on this for your toddler. Setting these types of necessary limits helps the whole family, and the toddler needs to learn this.
Some parents fail to set limits as they do not want to see their child frustrated. Healthy doses of frustration give your toddler the right amount of resistance to hold him from reaching their full potential. There is a saying, no frustration no growth, so make sure you should know how to handle those frustrations. Toddlers need someone to set limits as the outside world is too scary.
Teach Your Child Consequences
It is hard to explain your one-year-old toddler, but now it is worth to start trying. Explain all those positive consequences and rewards for good actions. Keep in mind age and explain those negative consequences of bad behaviors.
Your tone of voice and facial expression will explain to your toddler that what are you indicating. Stay calm and keep the negative expression out of your face, voice but be firm with them as you explain the consequences. Explain to your toddler that when you share your toys, you are making someone happy. In that way, your toddler will get praise, even rewards. Encourage your toddler to good behavior. If your toddler is being stubborn, gently explain that sharing toys is a good thing in that she will get praise from everyone.
Notice and Encourage Good Behavior
It is easy to focus on when your toddler is doing something wrong or inappropriate for the sake of their safety. But often, your child does bad behavior or mischief to get your attention. So, try to notice your baby more when they are doing something right and encourage that good behavior with a positive vibe.
Use words like “proud,” “appreciate,” “nice,” “well done,” etc. Tell your toddler that, “You cleaned your toys! I am proud of you.” “You are such a good boy” “You shared your chocolate with your brother! Well done.” Ignore those bad behaviors as at this age babies do not remember what bad they do. So, when you know that baby understands the wrong, then you can do the recommended treatment.
You may think that chocolates or cookie before this once is pretty harmless. But giving that to your kid’s demand encourages her to have another at that time, and when they do not get that, they start crying. It is essential to make limits and follow them thoroughly. You and your toddler need to follow the same rules; you can not break them and expect your baby to behave.
As kids learn what they see at that age. Sending your toddler mixed messages confuses toddlers and gets frustrated. What method you need to choose to be discipline consistently on your rules. If multiple people take care of your baby, make sure they follow the same rules with your approach to discipline.
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What Can You Do to Support Your Child’s Development?
- Your child is learning from you all the time. Your time, attention, and interaction they observe these things all the time, making it loving and playful. When you communicate with your child, always avoid distractions such as mobile, television, or games.
- In that stage, toddlers probably can not hold on to a full conversation, so talk with your child frequently. Ask a question and wait for the answer; for instance, make up an answer for your baby aloud. Even do this when you are walking with your toddler; for example, name everything you see and discuss that with her.
- Reading and singing are helpful for the child’s development and its pleasurable for them. It helps to develop their language skills, so make sure you often do singing and reading. Tell them stories that give both fun and center of the action at the same time.
- Do good behaviors in front of your baby. Use positive language, encourage them to try to do new things, and praise them when they do things right such as hand washing, teeth brushing, etc.
- A childproof environment is necessary for your home. Make sure that everything is safe so that your child is free to explore. One way to observe this that get down on your hands and see what kind of trouble he can get into.
- Make your mobile and television children mode. When they watch anything from mobile or TV, they will not get into adult things.
Disciplinary Tactics To Avoid
Avoid those tactics that are inappropriate when disciplining a toddler. Instead of self-control and behave, they may learn violence and other bad habits.
- Spanking: Although spanking seems to work because there is an immediate reaction from the toddler. Spanking is violence that can teach a toddler to be aggressive, angry, mad, anti-social behavior, and even health problems in their adult life. Researchers and experts say that there is no evidence that spanking has improved the child’s behavior.
- Hurtful words: Many parenting do this as psychological spanking to their toddler. They scold and humiliate children in front of people to erode their self-esteem. On the other part building, self-esteem for your toddler is an essential element for their discipline. For instance, never tell your child that “You are bad” instead of, tell them that their behavior is unacceptable. Say that, “Pushing your brother is bad” Also, do not say that “You are dumb or lazy” as he will start to believe that about himself. Instead, say that “Not picking up your toys is lazy.” Encourage your baby to do good things not discourage them with your words. So, choose those words wisely.
- Shouting: It mainly teaches your baby to be scared of you and have fear instead of learning lessons from bad behavior.
- Time out: However, this thing is recommended by many experts. But new studies show that this not the best way to teach your baby lessons. That time is an emotional time, and the misbehaving is actually crying for help. A toddler always wants to connect with more and more people and get care from people he loves not isolated. Timeout makes the toddler angrier, frustrated, and more unable to control, and he will this that his parents are punishing him.
- Bribery: Giving your baby something such as food or toys to stop their whining or misbehaving teaches the child to misbehave to get rewards.
Do Not Expect Perfection
Your one-year-old toddler is still learning the rules, and we need to remind them every time. At this stage child do not have any control and when you directly refuse them not to do that thing. It will make them frustrated quickly, so you need helpful tactics to make your toddler understand what’s right and wrong. Children can be easily distracted so try to give them novel things so that they can stop doing anything wrong.
They need time and explore new things as they want to learn everything in this world. Adults know what they need and what they need to do to get that. Children do not know how to explain things, and they still need to learn this. So, take your time to teach your child that it is okay to not want to do things, but you should not refuse to do them. Your one year old needs parents to teach them how to behave that acceptable and safe.